Making Love Last: Mercury–It’s Our Story and We’re Sticking to It

Mercury Love Stories

Mercury Love Stories

Mercury is generally not thought of as a “relationship” planet. The planet of our thinking processes, business, commerce and communications, it just doesn’t fit in our notion of romance. At best it gets a glancing blow in composite and synastry chart readings. But we may have to revise our thinking on the importance of Mercury in a relationship. Several studies have shown the importance of Mercury’s processes in keeping a relationship strong.

While good communication between partners is universally recognized as an important element in a strong relationship, the functions of Mercury go deeper than that.

Judith Wallerstein in her 1995 book, “The Good Marriage” describes what astrologers would call a Mercury function as one of the 9 major tasks of making love last. She describes this task as “applying humor in appropriate ways and keeping the relationship interesting to laugh and ward off boredom and ennui.”

Still another aspect of Mercury that of the storyteller is an important quality in a long lasting relationship:

Those who endure have a story, and they stick to it. Robert Sternberg, dean of the school of arts and science at Tufts University, has researched this and has come up with about two dozen relationship stories, some good, some bad. The “fairy tale story” has a prince and a princess; the “visionist story” is a business model, accumulating homes, goods and successful children; the “travel story” says that life is a journey; the “police story” divides the partners’ roles into cop and perp, with the former constantly monitoring the latter; the “war story” means that two people expect constant fights. “What our research shows is that couples tend to be more satisfied if they have matching story profiles,” Sternberg says. Pair a fairy tale believer with a war story believer and “it won’t work,” he says.

Mercury, as the planet of communication, has an important role in maintaining a relationship, even those with less than desirable storylines. More than just being able to talk, Mercury lay the foundation of what the couple view as their reason for staying together.

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Do It Again, Baby: A Lesson in Twos

In my personal life, the number two is a recurrent theme. I was born on the second day of the second month extremely close to a birth time of 11:11 a.m. My name, Beth, (no, not Elizabeth, on the BC it is Beth) is the second letter of the Hebrew alphabet. I grew up in a house that was number 11 on the street. So you just might say that I am sensiitve to themes that involve numero dos.

Mercury in it own sign Gemini, is exactly halfway in its celestial duty in this sign. The second body of the astrologer’s lexicon, Mercury rules all things that comes in two, including twins. How Mercury cam to be associated with Gemini is a little fuzzy. But the story of Castor and Pollux, twin sons of the same mother, but different fathers, is a story of filial love and comradeship. When Pollux, who was mortal, died, his immortal brother asked Zeus that he should not be separated from his brother. Zeus made them both stars and fixed them in the constellation Gemini.

Though Mercury has turned direct, the higher octave of Mercury, Uranus, is now in station at, of all things, 22 degrees of Uranus preparing on July 1 to retrograde back a few degrees in Pisces until November of this year. Monica at Astrology Mundo, pointed out that the server problems with my regular blog may be related to this station of Uranus. Rob Tillet has this to say about retrograde planets:

Retrograde periods, although often problematic for us earthlings, are not particularly uncommon. . . As a rule, retrograde planets presage a period of seemingly inevitable or fated events, which relate to their sphere of influence. They present us with a series of events over which we seem to have little or no control, relating especially to the sign in which the retrogradation occurs.

It is af if Uranus has extended the Mercury retrograde period. Not only that, we are going to have to do over the lessons related to Uranus in Pisces we learned in the previous months until November of this year.

It looks like I have to wait until at least July 1 for the server problems with Astrology Explored to be permanently resolved. Until then, I keep posting here.

What has been your lessons with Uranus in Pisces? And do you think you need to do them over again?